Someone I work with was just given a 40k ring. I don't feel so bad blowing 3....

Not sure if I'm proud to say it but I didn't buy my wife a diamond engagement ring. I bought her a gold chain that was valued on weight. So its gone up a bit in value over the years. The year before we got married I bought her a ring with a glass crystal on it. We got it in Hong Kong for about $40 as it was a silver ring. It looks quite like a real diamond, real enough to fool an aunt who thinks stuff like diamond rings are important.

I sometimes get a bit of stick from the missus about not getting her a diamond ring but then I tell her basically the same as what this video says.

Why was that Marilyn Monroe song written, Diamonds are a girls best friend?

I'm pretty well over the whole consumer lifestyle now and tend to think that less is more when it comes to stuff.

Its not the quality of the ring but the quality of the person who gives it to you. Money and expensive jewellery are of least importance.

so a mate of mine spent 35k on a pink argyle stone for his missus

just the stone

but they've been together for 30yrs

and she never got an engagement ring in the beginning..

i plonked down a grand for a second hand kite for mine

and she's heaps hotter...

plus i get to use the kite................



....... that's why they call me theDoctor....

kat75 said..

I didnt mean that if you can afford an expensive ring than you are less caring. I meant a expensive ring shouldnt stop you from asking someone you love to marry you. People are so hung up on the cost of weddings or valentines gifts these days, some people not everyone.

I don't really understand what you are trying to say. In any case the point is we are manipulated into spending a lot of money on something that essentially worthless, useless and pointless. At least bacon and eggs for breakfast is a decent meal, even if we have been manipulated into eating it.

When I got engaged about 8 years ago I spent about 20% of my annual income to buy a ring for my to be wife. It took ages to save for it - we even had a kid by then - and it was really high quality beautiful ring. But no where near as big as some of the rings her friends had.
Now times are much easier and my income has increased significantly I though it would be nice to give her an upgrade - asked her what she would like and how big a diamond....

Must have been my lucky day, because she said "you went without (beer/fishing gear/boys trips ect) to buy this ring for me - that's what means something to me. If you buy me a big diamond now that you can afford it without having to worry - whats the point? Besides I could just use my credit card to buy one if I wanted..."

Don't know if I should thank my lucky stars or keep a really close eye on the bank statements....

Problem with so called status symbols now is that they are a measure of both wealth and idiocy with regards to borrowing money...

Shallow people are tripping over one another to borrow to out do one another.... providing they're comfortable to starve without state intervention when they retire then i suppose it's not our problem..

I did not feel bad about not buying the engagement ring - she proposed to me so I figured she should be getting me one - still waiting

Mobydisc said..

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Why was that Marilyn Monroe song written, Diamonds are a girls best friend?

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Whoever says diamonds are a girl's best friend has never bought one a detachable shower head!

theDoctor said..



so a mate of mine spent 35k on a pink argyle stone for his missus

just the stone

but they've been together for 30yrs

and she never got an engagement ring in the beginning..

i plonked down a grand for a second hand kite for mine

and she's heaps hotter...

plus i get to use the kite................



....... that's why they call me theDoctor....

Its amazing she is still with you, considering you spend the whole day on the internet chatting to babes. Perhaps I'm just jealous

Your focus is all wrong.....

It's like whining about the fact that your ticket was printed in black and white on some cheap paper instead of being card and on colour....

What you should be focusing on is that you have a ticket to the Britney Spears acoustic comeback tour.....

That diamond ring is like dipping your toe in the ocean.... You think it's cold and expensive now? Wait until you jump into marriage!

Focus people!

I must be the only woman that would not care about the cost of a ring. I wouldnt ask a man how much he paid either. Maybe the cost of all the stuff is why so many choose defacto relationships.

When the Sandwichmaker and myself eloped, we arranged for the boys to wag a day off school, whacked them into suits and they got to be witnesses

worked for us, YMMV


stephen

The Doctor has a partner... I'm devastated